Authoritative Parenting Style
Written by Craig Rogers, in Section Help for Parents
There are a number of parenting styles out there in today’s society ranging from passive techniques to full authoritarian style. Authoritative parenting falls somewhere in between. So what are some of the pros and cons of this approach to raising your child?
1. One of the principle ideas to Authoritative Parenting is laying down ground rules for your teen. However, this is usually done in the context of understanding and responsive decision making. The rules are not concrete and the approach tries to use a position of flexibility to handle each situation uniquely. One advantage this can have is a positive reinforcement ideal for a teen rather than a hard line punishment system.
2. Failure is an opportunity to learn: With the approach parents address failure as a chance to teach a teen or child why they failed and how to better approach the situation next time. Here’s a situation to ponder:
Your son or daughter has a spelling test that will greatly affect their final grade for the year. When the test is complete, they receive a D and as a result, their average falls to a C on the year. You are aware that they did not study nearly as much as they could have to prepare themselves for the test.
One approach to this scenario would be strict punishment. Failure in this situation is responded to with grounding the child without room to give. The Authoritative approach may better explore some effective options.
Rather than hard-line punishment in this case, the parent makes the decision to discuss the seriousness of events leading to the poor grade. Engaging your son or daughter and helping them to understand the need for more attention to study and the direct results can be a very good opportunity to present a lesson in dedication leading to positive results; one that can be carried through more situations than a simple test study scenario.
3. Another key factor in Authoritative Parenting is the ability to administer consistent punishment techniques. By setting standards in behavior punishment for yourself and holding to them you can better create an atmosphere of understanding and anticipation. This will allow your child to learn their boundaries and properly adapt to them rather than constantly guessing where they may lie. Oftentimes inconsistencies in the parenting can lead to carrying over of the same behavior traits in a teen or child.