Violent Teens

How Can I Control my Anger?

Are you finding yourself constantly in trouble because you can't control your anger? Do you feel that violence is the only form of control and power that you have? Often, you probably aren't even sure why you just acted aggressively. In many cases, the teen victimizing other people is often a victim themselves.

There is an array of different situations that may have contributed to your violent actions. For example, you may have incorrectly learned that violence is acceptable from a parent or guardian. Additionally, you may use violence as an outlet to compensate for your shortcomings in school, social settings or athletics. Or perhaps you joined a gang or started hanging out with violent friends who have peer pressured you into acting violently. A lifetime of seeing violence glorified in the media could be another factor. In any case, it is imperative that you realize violence is not an acceptable form of expression. It will leave you in all sorts of trouble and could ruin your future.

Controlling your anger is a process. By consistently making the right choices and being cognizant that your actions have serve consequences, you can overcome your violent ways. Here are some tips of you can control your anger and propensity for violence.

1) Talk to a parent or responsible adult about your issues. There may be circumstances beyond your control that are contributing to your violent outbursts and a responsible adult can help you rectify these pressing issues. You will be surprised of how helpful talking about your issues can be.

2) Get involved in social groups. Research has shown that teens who are active in their schools and communities are less likely to act out with violence.

3) The next time you feel the need to be violent, take a deep breath and think of how you could resolve the conflict peacefully. Talking through an argument or getting a third party to intervene are a few examples of how you can avoid a violent outburst and stay out of trouble.

4) Make a personal pledge to stop using violence to convey your anger or resolve conflicts.

5) Abstain from alcohol and drugs. Alcohol and drugs will impair your judgment and get you in murky situations that could cause a violent reaction.

Sometimes, the best course of action that you can take is a drastic change in routine and help from trained professionals. It can be too difficult to evade old habits, friends and circumstances. An example of how you can do this is seeing a therapist or attending a boarding school will set the foundation and discipline needed to get your life back in order. The professionals who work with you can properly diagnose the root of your anger issues and teach you how to make healthy choices that will permit you to be more successful in life.

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