Dealing with your Promiscuous Teenager
The thought of your teenager sexually acting out leads parents to worry because of many reasons. Sex at a very young age, especially when a person is still learning about one’s self, skews one’s self-image and also how they view relationships. According to teenage promiscuity statistics, 34% of sexually active high school students don’t bother to use condoms during sexual intercourse. This puts young people in danger of getting sexually transmitted diseases and puts them at risk of getting pregnant or getting somebody pregnant at a young age.
The American Academy of Pediatrics stated that among 12th graders, that 66.4 % of them are sexually active. Each year, there are approximately 3 million cases of STDs (sexually transmitted disease) among teens and about 1 million of them get pregnant. Sadly, people within the ages of 15-24 years old died because of HIV (human immunodeficiency virus) infection; which is the 6th leading cause of death among that age bracket. Teens that become promiscuous can be doing it for a lot of reasons. It can be due to a belief that it will make them stand out from the rest, or a way for them to escape emotional confusion.
Here are simple steps you can teach your teens on how not to be promiscuous:
- Teach by example – Be a role model. Show your teens that you value your own body by having proper nutrition (healthy food and exercise). Always encourage them to be clean especially during their puberty stage because it will teach them about respecting their own body and regarding it as a gift.
- Discuss to your teens about the possible sexually transmitted disease that they could gain from being promiscuous and how these diseases can cause more health risks or even death. Explain how it can alter their lives in the future including the problems they might encounter regarding having their own children.
- Establish an open relationship with your teens, let them know that they can come to you and talk about anything. But be sure to not let your judgment cloud you if ever your teen talks about something you totally don’t agree upon, just listen as they open to you.
- If you think your teen is totally not open about everything with you, you can search for a safe community message board online where your teen can participate in. It’s not bad to have additional support system from those who may have the same experience your teen has.
In this day and age, there are other sexually dangerous behavior that are cropping up and concerning parents. Sexting or sending explicit texts and photos over mobile phone is one of them, and young people just don’t understand the risk that comes with their actions. They may be involved in a romantic relationship with one person now and think nothing of sending explicit photos through phone or email.
The truth is that you can’t twist your teen’s arms and make them stop what they are doing. You can’t lock them up or keep your eye on them all the time. It’s a dysfunctional way of going about sexual misbehavior. The more important thing is to not just stop the irresponsible sexual activity but to make sure your teen understands the risk they are putting themselves through whenever they make a bad judgment call.
There are a lot of things about sex that children and their parents need to talk about. There are issues on date rape, setting limits and boundaries, sexting, and a lot more. It takes a lot of involvement in the life of your teen to be able to talk to them with confidence about these topics and to learn what they think about it. If your child is engaging in extremely dangerous sexual activities that go beyond experimentation and what they perceive to be “harmless fun”, it may be time to consider counseling.
There are also institutions like wilderness camps and therapeutic boarding schools that specialize in dealing with out of control youths, like those who are sexually acting out. Such institutions have been instrumental in turning the lives of many young people around and giving them a chance at a better future by learning how to make good decisions. This, along with the loving guidance of their parents/guardian will help them get through this bumpy phase in their lives and prevent sexually dangerous activities from becoming a constant challenge in their lives.